We met at 25 years old through mutual friends and dated for seven years before getting married. Like many newlyweds, we started with high hopes, believing that love alone would see us through. But just five years into our marriage, we were falling apart.
We were both strong-willed and stubborn, unwilling to back down in disagreements. Over time, resentment replaced love as our differences—from finances to daily habits—became battlegrounds. Instead of growing together, we grew apart, living like roommates rather than soulmates.
The tension became unbearable. Our marriage ended.
I thought that was the end of our story. But God had other plans.
During our time apart, David came to know the Lord. This led him to go through a personal transformation. He began to reflect on how his upbringing had shaped his expectations of marriage. His father had never treated his mother well, and his mother, being a submissive woman, quietly endured it all. Without realizing it, David expected me to do the same—to keep silent and accept things as they were. But I wasn’t willing to live in quiet resentment.
As God worked in his heart, David began to understand love differently—not as something to control, but as something to nurture, sacrifice for, and cherish. God was working in my heart too.
Slowly, we found our way back to each other. We remarried—but this time, we chose to do things differently.
We learned that a strong marriage doesn’t just happen—it requires intentionality. Now, every Monday is our "everything day." We walk, talk, and discuss everything—from parenting to personal growth to things we need to work on in our relationship. This dedicated time has strengthened our connection and deepened our understanding of each other.
We’ve also learned that small sacrifices bring long-term joy. Compromise isn’t about losing—it’s about winning in love and family.
But the most important change? God is now at the center of our marriage.
We’ve realized that marriage takes three—husband, wife, and God. His Word is now our guide, helping us navigate conflict with grace and love instead of pride and stubbornness.
We not only run a business together—something many couples struggle with—but we’ve learned to work as partners in life and faith. Our anchor? Daily devotion and prayer together every morning, after our kids go to school.
This time with God isn’t just a routine—it’s a non-negotiable part of our day. It sets the tone for everything that follows, reminding us that we don’t walk this journey alone.
Keeping the spark alive isn’t about grand gesture— it’s about daily choices. It’s about laughing together, being silly, and making time for each other.
We now make time for each other, e.g. our “everything day”. This intentional time strengthens our chemistry and synergy. We’ve learned that small sacrifices, such as compromising on personal preferences, yield a blissful marriage and a secure family environment.
Looking back, I see how far we’ve come. We are not the same people we were in our first marriage, and that’s a good thing. We’ve grown, we’ve healed, and we’ve built something far stronger than before.
If our story teaches anything, it’s this:
Love isn’t just about finding the right person—it’s about becoming the right person for each other, over and over again. ❤️
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