Sorting Out Burdens with the Help of ThriveSg

by Lim (@mentholhalle), 20, with her artworks inspired by her healing journey.


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Family can be difficult. Even if they mean well, some actions can cause more harm than good. My grandmother was a very dominant personality in my growing up years as one of my main caregivers. She was also a very anxious person and her anxieties unfortunately created a lot of anxiety for me and my family through her constant criticism about me, the way I do things, as well as the faults she saw in my parents, and the discontentment she felt towards my parent's relationship.



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My grandmother caused much emotional and mental chaos within me as I constantly had to hear her talk down to my parents, and her criticisms of them behind their backs. This was traumatic for me as a child as it made me feel as if I had responsibility to do something about their relationship.


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I had little to no idea how to process this, and also how this was never a burden for me to bear as a child. My grandmother’s criticisms also unfortunately led me to feel mistrust and resentment towards my parents and affected my relationship with them.


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I felt extremely isolated in my family, unable to communicate and have a good relationship with my parents, even if I wanted to. The mischaracterizations that had occurred had created a deep discontentment. It came to a point where I felt very lost after these feelings of insecurity overwhelmed me to the point of suicidal ideation, but fortunately I remembered that a friend recommended ThriveSg as an affordable counselling service to help me process my situation.


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Counselling helped me to process all the difficult emotions I felt as a child because of my grandmother’s dominant role in my life. I also learnt how to connect with my “inner child,” and soothe that part of me that was once very hurt. Reassuring the inner child helped me to realise I am capable of handling and moving on from such conflict. Over time, my “inner child” became less susceptible to such conflicts, and it also helped me to be less triggered emotionally whenever future conflict would occur.


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Many of the situations I was previously involved in emotionally were also processed and affirmed to me that indeed, many of the situations which I observed were from anxieties, and not actually an impending sign of the family unit breaking apart. Processing how I felt in those situations has helped me to react in a less emotionally charged state whenever future conflicts with my parents and my grandmother would occur. Over time, I was able to manage triggers and reactions better, and I also was able to reconnect and rebuild my relationship with my parents. Counselling also helped changed my insecure anxious attachment style, as I notice myself growing into a more secure person.


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Additionally, my counsellor also encouraged me to seek comfort in Christ and bring my worries and burdens to Him. With that, it also allowed me to see the situation with a more compassionate lens, just as Christ does for his wayward people. I could give Him all the anger and resentment I felt and experiencing Him putting my worries to rest. Every situation I persevered through is by faith and in His grace, believing that He would restore me through my continued faith and reliance on Him.


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The counselling I received has given me hope that I can reconcile with my family members, and allow me to feel more secure about myself and my ability to handle conflict, knowing that the Lord is beside me every step of the way.


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